tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-307749076321026972.post2249633429616294166..comments2012-01-07T09:27:21.679-08:00Comments on SurfPrayLove: Balancing ActsJesica Davishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11892427020939517798noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-307749076321026972.post-83181830371774455712010-09-18T15:54:33.046-07:002010-09-18T15:54:33.046-07:00Matt, I hadn't realized you'd been writing...Matt, I hadn't realized you'd been writing all these comments until I figured out there was a comments tab on my dashboard that would let me see all of them. Hello, learning curve. <br /><br />Don't "crave" fatherhood? I hope you're not beating yourself up about that one.Where surfing may wipe away every concern, doesn't parenthood confront you with every concern and then throw a few extra in just for kicks?<br />Love<br />jesJesica Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11892427020939517798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-307749076321026972.post-28654496020921029002010-09-18T03:48:34.645-07:002010-09-18T03:48:34.645-07:00Like you I'm often on a mind wave. But I neve...Like you I'm often on a mind wave. But I never thought about comparing the necessity (and the payoff) of being present when you're out in the water to the ways that such presence pays off when I'm with the kids. So often I suddenly "snap into it" and realize I've been mentally somewhere else when I should be "with" my children. I think I crave surfing in a way that I don't crave "fatherhood" partly because of the way that it wipes every other concern away and leaves me 100% focused. But I'd like to be able to apply that focus more often to parenting.Matthew C. Baldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01274437724752872619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-307749076321026972.post-21050312709326871392010-09-09T20:17:28.581-07:002010-09-09T20:17:28.581-07:00The feeling of being present is the best feeling. ...The feeling of being present is the best feeling. And you're right, it happens with kids just like with surfing. I seek that in sports --when you're on the water (or the mountain), you have to be present, you have no choice. It's such a relief (and a high) when my brain goes there, to that place where it notices everything, where time slows down and I can feel everything and see everything. I wish I was always in that space with my kids. I can't be tired or distracted or pissed off. It's much harder than with that wave, because the wave forces you to tune in.Lindsay Jamieson Gallagherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06028629973212820265noreply@blogger.com